Why aren’t you moving forward?
Is it hard to find opportunities, or are you letting them slip by when they show up?
It may sound surprising, and yet one of the biggest reasons people don’t succeed is because they get in their own way.
If you’re not reaching the level of success you believe you can, it might be time to ask yourself—
are you holding yourself back?
Does Any of this sound like you?
You Use the Emergency Exit
And do you tend to come close to completion of a project only to back out at the last minute? When you feel the need to bail, it’s typically because you’re afraid to take the last step. Either you’re too worried that it won’t work out, or worse, you’re worried that it will. It’s not uncommon to back away from things that frighten us. This is why we tank a relationship the moment we start to feel close to the other person. It’s also why we sabotage ourselves at work when we hear we’re being considered for promotion.
You're Procrastinating
When you put things off, it typically means you are feeling unsure about what you’re doing. If you feel like your skills are not up to the task, or you’re not confident regarding the next step, it’s natural to put things off, hoping that they’ll seem more apparent later. The problem is this clarity rarely comes. In truth, we only wind up sinking ourselves when we needed to be asking for help.
You're Burying Yourself in Something Else Entirely
Are you easily distracted? If you’re worried about the outcome of one project, it’s not uncommon to throw yourself into another. This helps you keep your mind off of what worries you. It also keeps you from getting done what you need to.Â
You're Giving Yourself the Wrong Pep Talk
Instead of using some positive self-talk to get things done, are you by any chance using negative self-talk to keep you from even attempting something? After all, it’s very easy to convince ourselves that we’re failures. Why do we do it? Because if we know it’s not going to work out, we never have to make the effort in the first place.
Throughout the day, we tend to talk to ourselves. Everything we do inspires some form of internal dialogue.
The question is just how positive are the things we are saying? When we engage in negative self-talk, we make ourselves absolutely miserable through a constant stream of criticism and self-recrimination. As a result, we hold ourselves back from accomplishing our goals.
If you don’t think you are engaging in negative self-talk, consider some of these statements and see them for what they are.
I’m too __________ to Get This Done
We all have a pet word that fills in the blank. Stupid. Lazy. Out of shape. Old. Whatever. It doesn’t matter the word we use, and the intent is always the same. If we can convince ourselves we’re not able to do something because there’s something inherently wrong with us, then, in a sense, it’s not really our fault when we fail. The problem is eventually, we start to believe these words, redefining who we are.
It’s My Fault
Shifting the blame over to ourselves can seem like a way to get out of conflict quickly. The problem is, we get so used to taking the blame that we start apologizing for things that never had anything to do with us in the first place. This constant stream negativity and of living your life as though everything is your fault will keep you from even attempting to succeed.
It’s Not Like It Was Going to Work
In contrast, when something does go wrong, making a statement of this sort absolves you of all responsibility. It sets you up for accepting failure without ever giving you the ability to learn from the mistake. Eventually, this also keeps you from giving it a go again. After all, why bother?
That’s Not What They Meant
When we start analyzing what people say and assuming every compliment is some kind of put down in disguise, we’re telling ourselves the good things said about us can’t ever be right. Worse, this has a way of making us feel like there can’t even be good things about us.
Are any of these things stopping you?
- Procrastination
- Perfectionism
- People Pleasing
- Stubbornness
- Refusing to ask for help
- Negative self-talk
- Avoiding risk
- Avoiding confrontation
- Unable to disconnect from work
- Refusing to learn from mistakes
'Stop What's Stopping You' is bonus content in the 3-Month membership
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Read the various lessons and use the journal (yours to download) to find the beliefs causing these patterns.
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Use EFT and tap to change the emotions and beliefs around whatever you've discovered to stop what's stopping you.
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If you're having a challenge with any of it, post your questions or bring it to the next group tapping call for help.
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